I Forgot Who I am?

By now we have all heard Monica new cd, right? If not please invest, it is worth it! On the cd, is one of my favorite songs, titled Believing In Me. It talks about how the relationship went sour. In the midst of the relationship going bad, how Monica feels like she has lost herself and been so giving of herself that she is getting weak. When I first heard it I was like who told Monica my business? In has been in my past experiences and present that sometimes after we have smelled the other persons morning breath and pass gas in front of one another that things has changed. Changed so much that we sometimes can not recognize ourselves.
And like Monica, we both are gaining control and and beginning to love ourselves again. I don't want to spend much time over the lost ones or the wasted emotions. But slumber in the fact are women that pay bills, take out trash, and got lid processors that open up jars. So every week I am scratching off reasons why we don't need men. So men lets go. Seriously, let's go get jobs and learn crafts. I know everyone is different so calm done boys. I won't ever go ham on you guys, because I too want a king that's worth following one day. Oh but I am not submissive so walk beside with one day. Wheeew, that's better y'all. (Lord, you know you are my ultimate leader)
(Whispering) Back to us women, the most important beings. I am a woman but most importantly, I am a black woman. As black women it is to our understanding that finding a good black man is rare. So sometimes anyone that appear to be good, we want to give them the world honey. We are cooking, cleaning, and missing school or whatever to be around this man. In the process are we really missing out on our individuality? I know that no relationship is equal, however I do not ever want to forget who I am.
If the balance beam seems to ever be so one-sided I pray that I am given the strength to let it go. At that point I would re evaluate my principles and goals that I enter the relationship with to rediscover myself. When we enter into relationships I know we should change the I to we, but is there anything wrong with separation at times. Ladies, I'm not saying leave your boo, because you been going shorty and not going to stop. If he look like TI, others are lurking including myself. Just playing I think in order to be a functional and happy 2, that individuals should be a complete 1. Couples argue for various reasons, but with a full or semi understanding of oneself it eliminate egos and insecurities. So women especially, lets show earthly things such as jobs and men that we have our own lives, thoughts, and ideas but the love for neither will not get compromised.
Moral of the story to man, woman or beast overall lets all start believing in ourselves.